I met someone a week ago, and what a week it has been. It's been an up and down roller coaster ride, emotionally draining, physically taxing. Let's assume my motives are sincere, the nature of my character, pure, my desires, heart felt. This person will not confirm their identity, will not call my cell, or answer direct questions regarding the relationship we have or don't have. She still seeks me out to my utter confusion. I am a simple Midwest boy whos been down that glits and glam road. I want my belladonna, not Heidi Flice. I want everyone's sincere opinion what should I do? Do I continue to believe love is all knowing, seeing, and feeling, and can penetrate the strangest of situations and make them wonderful? OR, do I adopt the policy, that if you got one hot girl in one week, what could another week bring? Very curious, would like everyone's input. Thanks all for entertaining my confusion and helping me to put some logic to it.
As you said, "love is all knowing, seeing, and feeling." I think you know the answer just from your mention of this phrase.
Ok, I did as you said and assumed your motives were sincere, pure and heartfelt. But I can't help but wonder about hers. Red flags are going up all around. Confirmation of identity is in the forefront.
Why can she not do this?
What is there to hide?
Why will she not call?
I have so been in your shoes and know that it is indeed possible to just be blown away by a persona in a matter of days. We see a wonderful personality with a connection to our soul that is nothing short of magical. But when our toes start to flutter down to earth, reason takes over and questions fill our mind.
Of course she seeks you out because she DOES enjoy you, DOES want a relationship, DOES feel the blissful connection you do as well. That's not a question. The question is can you have a relationship with her if there is something in her life that prohibits her from being able to give you her all. We know that something is, whatever it may be.
Therefore she can not reveal her life in a way that most do when they share a very special relationship. Is she married perhaps? Would this matter in the scheme of things? Would you enjoy her friendship just the same? If so, perhaps let her know that it is safe to be who she is... that you will accept her for good, bad or ugly. If this possibility could present a problem for you, you need to be honest with her and tell her that you need more of her... more sharing in order for the relationship to progress to the next level. You obviously are an open person by the way you have shared with us today.
Share with her your feelings... its time for the roller coaster to level out. Meeting someone needs to be fun... not draining and taxing. I hope this seems like a logical thing to do. I'll be curious to know how this works out. Good luck!