We both know the woman and we think she would okay with it. We got pretty drunk one night and all three of us talked about it and said it would be fun and nice but haven't gone forward with any plans. The next day we all said we were okay with it but wanted time to think about it since it is a big step. The following days my husband and I talked about it more and decided not to do it since it could be risky for our relationship and we told her that. We are still friends with her and now I am wondering about it again because it seems like it would help make our sex life even better. Our marriage is good and the sex is good and our communication is open yet I wonder if this fantasy my husband and I both have would be okay to actually do. Neither of us fantasized a threesome with this woman just a woman and neither of us want it with another man. I was the one who initiated the conversation with both of them in the first place that night and yet I feel they both would like to do it.
Hello Myca. I couldn't help but pick out your question, for obvious reasons of course. Let me go straight into it. The quick answer is NO! (Not with a friend first!) YES! If you think the relationship can handle it with someone that ya'll can meet and get to know for that purpose. OK?? If you would like to know why then read the following.
First of all I commend you for stating that you don't desire a man in this, (I'll comment on that later). Second, you’re lucky to have a man that hasn't shoved the thought of this down your throat since you both met (even better since this incident). Anyway, "Is it a good idea..?" you ask. Well in this case it's one of those grey areas we all see every now and then. From experience and dealing in "The Lifestyle", as they say, I recommend that you and your husband start with an unknown. The reason for this is simply because should you both decide to go through with this if it turns awkward or it just wasn't good or it was!! See that way you hurt no one and you both get to figure if it's something ya'll would like to consider doing again. Now let me say this, please understand that men and women are totally built different mentally and emotionally. I'm not trying to drag this out or be your counselor but these are thing people should take into consideration before doing things that may destroy something that's perfect already. So make sure that you both have a very, very open discussion about the possibilities of (Jealousy, How you both feel before and after the act, Jealousy!, Can one of you stop if other is uncomfortable?, JEALOUSY!! and disease). I'll take it that you both are very wise and know your partner and your friend. So if you trust and KNOW them well enough to not warrant any foreseeable problems, then HEY! ENJOY!! But remember, the beginning is always Bliss, but look further down the road!!