About 3 months ago I found some of my sisters panties in my sons room sock drawer. They seemed embarrassed about them, but would not tell my why they took them. They actually stole them from their aunts house. They have also had a pair of my panties in their drawers before. They are not overly sexy by any means. That incident went by, but then today I found some panties from my 4 year old daughter in my 8 year olds room. Just threw them into the middle of the floor with his other dirty clothes, and he hurried and snatched them up first then the other clothes and offered to quickly take them up to the laundry. My sons don't seem to know the first thing about sex, have never been molested, why the interest in panties, and what are they doing with them, dare I ask?
You should really investigate more. There could be so many reasons for this. You’re just going to haft to walk in wisdom and find out by talking to them. Whatever they don't learn from you someone else is going to teach them. There going to find out from someone or something (TV, Internet, etc...) no matter what.
Even if they haft to teach there selves threw there own curiosity and exploration. You might as well be the one to talk to them and answer there questions. You say your children have never been molested are you sure? This can happen and you not know and they might not tell you very easily. Boys can molest boys, or even older brothers molest a younger female or male sibling.
I have known a female that was molested by her older brothers. So watch over your 4 year old daughter to make sure that she is protected until you get to the bottom of this. Finally if there father is not in there life you should find them a mentor. I recommend a local church with a youth pastor that is fun and in tune with your kids needs. The pastor should stay current with the issues of your children’s age group and as they grow older.
Where I go to church the youth church has a gym and even Playstation 2. They teach the kids what they need to know about abstinence and drugs. In addition you should volunteer there to get up to date with what is going on in kids lives. Also this will give you an opportunity to find a male that YOU can trust to speak into your kids lives………Your mom and some things they just need to talk with a man about and have some male guidance. Someone they feel they can talk to too get answers without feeling “busted” by there curious questions. You should also be in a church that will give you REAL usable principles that are practical on parenting, simple and easy to understand.
Oh and if there on the internet have you asked your self what are they looking at? Below are some links to help you out. Hope this all helped.