So I'm in the middle of a break up...it really hurts and is so painful. As much as I love this person, I hate him as well...He have lie, call me names, have pushed me and many times have ignore me. I miss him so much, we have children together, but I have realized I can not live in this environment anymore. Its to painful to fight and argue 24/7. I have made my mind in living and taking care of myself and my children, but then he'll come and the minute he gets close to me...I melt. BUT I'm still very hurt...He's 78% bad to me and things are not good between us for the past months....but I can hide the fact that he have changed and haven't been around me. What should I do. Believe me I don't think he will agree to counseling...He think he is too smart for that....
It sounds like you do love this man but the old saying is good here.. "If mom isn't happy no one else is" Yes I will be truly hard to start by yourself but I did it after I left a man that pushed me around and called me names and pretty much just made me feel like a piece of trash. I have 2 children and I found a man the loves and respects me and my children. I understand that love is hard to past especially when you have children involved.
But you need to be strong. not just for yourself but for the children too. It is hard but you are a woman and just tell yourself when he comes around and tries to get you in his little trap "I am a woman strong and hear me roar" just keep telling your self that when he is around and hopefully you will be strong enough to stay out of the trap. I believe ppl change but at the same time the little pushing he does on you is just the first sign of abuse and with him doing mental abuse too it won't be long before it is so bad to where you are too scared to leave and if you need help there is so many places that have woman there to help you in your problems and I agree with you about counseling
I don't see him going. I just feel that staying away from him is the best thing you can do for you and your children. And about him coming to see the children well you can have someone else there with you while he visits with the children he has come to see them not you and make that clear to him. I think you can be strong and stronger then him if you have someone in your corner with you. Even just a friend or sibbling. Here is a website for you and there you can learn some things good luck and I wish you all the best.